There are over 350 PFLAG (Parents, Family & Friends of Lesbians and Gays) chapters across the United States. This means it is likely there is a PFLAG chapter near you. PFLAG members are comprised of gay allies that network to assist in creating and maintaining gay friendly communities and working on social justice issues related to gays and lesbians. If you contact a chapter near you, not only will they be extremely supportive of your sexual orientation, but they can also direct you to gay communities in your area. If there are not any gay communities already in place, you can always join PFLAG and help them start one.
If you don’t know of absolutely any gay communities, organizations or gay friendly places to go in your town, you have a few more possibilities. Although the Democratic party does not necessarily equal gay friendly, there’s still a good chance that if you participate in a Democratic organization you may find other gay people. You may also find other gay people in art communities and drama and theater ones. While these may seem stereotypical, it might be the only avenues for some gay people to meet in smaller towns.